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Divorce & Separation

Divorce - Thoughts to help parents part 2: What about the kids?
Divorce – Thoughts to help parents part 2 What about the kids? What do I say? What about the kids? Distracted, unhappy people are usually distracted unhappy parents, so it can be difficult to help our kids manage their... View

Divorce - Thoughts to help parents part 1: Accepting it's over
Divorce – Thoughts to help parents part 1 Accepting it's over and managing feelings Accepting it's over Taking the decision to separate is rarely easy; there are no 'winners' or 'losers' and for many couples having to... View

Divorce-Thoughts to help parents part 3: Moving On
Divorce – Thoughts to help parents part 3 Everything Changes – Moving On Coping Following the breakup, you will need to begin to think about what life will be like for all of you from now on. It’s not going to be the... View

I am Jack - Separated Dad
I am Jack I'm a separated father of four-year old daughter, Mikaela. My Problem My ex-partner (Mikaela’s Mother) keeps asking me to have Mikaela at short notice, then...
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Parenting when separated/divorced - custody and access
Parenting when Separated or Divorced - Custody and Access In an ideal, post-separation world, the parents would each live close by, so that the kids have easy access to both parents, and that the parents can retain a strong sense of shared... View

Parenting when separated/divorced
Parenting when separated/divorced Divorce and children can be a recipe for a difficult situation. The break-up of a marriage or committed co-habiting partnership is always stressful, even in those rare situations when it’s... View

Maintaining contact
Maintaining Contact In this section: What is contact? What's it for? Does contact matter? The right level of contact? Should the children have a say? Formal or Informal? All day in McDonalds? Special occasions Whats... View

Help your Children Cope with Your Divorce - How to lessen the pain of divorce for your children (Relate Guide)
Children of all ages can be devastated by the news that their parents' relationship has broken down. Even those who have been living in a highly conflictual situation are often shocked by the final decision to separate. For most children,... View

After the Affair
Finding out that your partner has had an affair feels like the end of the world. It is the ultimate betrayal and the most difficult thing to do is to trust again. This text takes a frank yet sensitive look at this topic. This book looks at... View

How to Have a Healthy Divorce
"How to Have a Healthy Divorce" will help you to embrace the reality of the situation, gain more understanding of what went wrong and help you handle the rollercoaster of emotions involved. View

Moving On - Breaking up without breaking down (Relate guide)
One in three marriages ends in divorce. Cohabitation, marriage, divorce and re-marriage are becoming a normal part of the pattern of everyday life. However, the effects of such a pattern on the adults and children involved can be extremely... View

Starting Again - How to learn from the past for a better future (Relate guide)
A guide to looking to a positive future after the grief of a failed relationship. Through self-assessment questionnaires, tasks and discussion points, the author helps the reader to reach a greater understanding of him- or herself and to... View

Staying Together - From crisis to deeper commitment (Relate guide)
This guide offers advice on how to learn to come to terms with a failing relationship, assess whether it is worth saving, and how to overcome relationship difficulties. View

Stop Arguing: Start Talking - The 10 point plan for couples in conflict (Relate guide)
Aims to help couples break free of old patterns of behaviour and avoid using words as weapons when the going gets tough. Encourages upfront discussion rather than resorting to nagging, and to bring discussion rather than confrontation back... View

Advisory Centre for Education
http://www.ace-ed.org.uk Information & Advice for children/parents/carers/professionals on all issues of law & policy affecting children. Relate...
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Relate
Relate is a charity that offers advice, relationship counselling, sex therapy, workshops, mediation, consultations and support face-to-face, by phone and...
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Child Maintenance Options
Child Maintenance Options Child Maintenance Options provides impartial information and support to help both parents make an informed choice about child...
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Advicenow
Advicenow is an independent, not-for-profit website providing accurate, up-to-date information on rights and legal issues. Their information service...
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Alcohol Concern
Alcohol Concern is the national agency on alcohol misuse campaigning for effective alcohol policy and improved services for people whose lives are affected by...
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Gingerbread
Gingerbread is the leading national charity working to help the UK’s 1.9 million lone parents and their children. They believe in a fairer society for...
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I am Bryan Family conflict
I am Bryan I’m 44, and I’ve a wife and two teenage daughters, and all the two girls do is row, and create mess! My Problem I’m fed up with the constant...
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I am Jenny - Family Conflict
I am Jenny I’m 45, a Mum to two kids. My daughter has left home, but my son (18) left sixth form a year ago to get a job, he still lives with us. I’m very worried...
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I am Lisa - Family Conflict
I am Lisa I’m 32. Married to Sean, and we’ve got two young kids, aged 3 and 1. My Problem Sean hardly opens his mouth. It’s like he’s in a permanent...
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I am Mel - Lone Mother
I am Mel A lone mother of Jake, 3. His father’s never lived with us, or taken any real responsibility for Jake. My Problem His father sent a card and money around the time...
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I am Laura - Conflict/In-laws
I am Laura I'm a 34 year old Mum. My partner and I have a 3 year old son. My partner is 32. My problem His parents don’t like me. We struggle with this and I...
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I am Becky - Single Mum
I am Becky I'm a single mum with a son of 4 who has just started school. My problem I can’t seem to get Rory’s attention anymore he just ignores me and then I...
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Exercise for change
Exercise for Change Think of a change you would like to make in one of your personal relationships. When would you know that the change had taken place? What has to happen to make that change possible? How might the other person perceive... View

Arguments - Not in front of the children?
Arguments - Not in Front of the Children? How to Argue, Survive and Thrive. Arguments and disagreements are a fact of life for almost everybody. It would be surprising if we could get through life without once feeling that we wanted to... View

Lets Talk About Sex
Lets Talk About Sex (and Relationships) In this section: Forget the big speech Is there a right time? What do I say? Who and what can help? Forget the big speech: Try to bring it into normal conversation. Young... View

Before you say 'I Do' - How to be happily married for ever! (Relate guide)
Are you thinking about marriage, but afraid of ending up in the divorce statistics? Are you wondering if you're ready and able to make a public, lifelong commitment? "Before You Say 'I Do'" recognises that marriage takes courage, energy and... View

Better Relationships - Practical ways to make your love last (Relate guide)
This guide offers practical exercises and guidelines to increase mutual understanding amongst married couples, tackling issues of confrontation and commitment, amongst others. View

Sex in Loving Relationships (Relate guide)
Turn a disappointing sex life into one that is enjoyable and fulfilling, and turn a satisfying sex life into an even better sex life. This book guides you through practical tasks, quizzes and talking points to help discover the sexual person... View

From Partners to Parents
A new baby has a huge impact on a couple's relationship. This course helps you to understand the responsibilities and expectations of being new parents and develop skills to keep your relationship alive. This is valuable time out together... View

Parents Apart
Divorce or separation doesn’t just affect the adults in a relationship – it can affect the way children view relationships for life. If you’re concerned about how your children will cope with the break-up of your... View

Parent Mentoring
The course teaches how to develop skills in mentoring within a community, with a particular emphasis on befriending, building rapport, listening and giving feedback. It is a very practical course which will equip parents from all sorts of... View

Riding the Storm: for parents of teenagers
Watching your children grow up is rewarding but as they develop opinions and test out their independence it can be a challenge for any parent. This workshop looks at how to open up communication, improve your relationship with your teenager... View

Parenting Grownup Children
Parenting Grown Up Children Parenting grown up children is a bit like watching the slow motion film of an athletics relay race as the baton passes from one generation to the next in barely perceptible movements. Every now and then, the film... View

Contact a Family
Contact a Family http://www.cafamily.org.uk for parents/carers of disabled children. Relate for Parents & Families is not responsible for...
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Bringing Up Charlie Blog
http://www.bringingupcharlie.co.uk/A dad's eye view of bringing up children ... Tim Atkinson is a stay-at-home dad and former schoolteacher. But don't hold...
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Grandparents Association
Grandparents Association Helpline, advice, information and statistics about grandparenting. http://www.grandparents-association.org.uk/index.php Relate for...
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Netmums
http://www.netmums.com Practical Help & Emotional Support on parenting issues online Relate for Parents & Families is not responsible for content...
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BeGrand.net
Be Grand (http://begrand.net/) This site helps you to help you enjoy being a grandparent and to offer you expert advice when you have questions. You will...
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